It has been very painful and frustrating for him (I don't know which is worse). We are shifting and adjusting to make sure he gets the rest he needs. He is getting better about asking for help and being patient. I am getting better at delegating sit-down tasks to him while taking care of chores that require moving around. E has really been amazing - he's taken over the responsibility for taking out and brining in the garbage and recycling containers on garbage days. He made breakfast for everyone on Sunday (Belgian waffles and fruit salad - delicious!). He's been helping with dishes and random countless other things with almost no complaining. Also, E has driver's permit, so he's been driving everywhere with my husband in the passenger seat.
I was feeling sorry for myself for a couple of days - because I felt like I had to do everything for everyone, plus there was a lot of shuttling kids from activity to activity, and some of it got very exhausting with only 1.5 drivers. Going on walks helped. What helped even more, was the realization that I wasn't required to do "everything for everyone": I do what I can, kids can help, and my husband can get his own coffee in the kitchen if he doesn't feel like waiting.
This week is much better - both in terms of my own expectations and a drastic reduction in complaints from my husband (because he is in less pain and has gotten used to wearing the boot).
We have C's birthday coming up (I need to figure out a present... I have a couple of little things for her but I really want something she is going to be excited about...). We are planning to have a family party. We are also planning a sleepover with a couple of close friends. She is going to be 11!!!!!
What would you want as a present: Lego set or a book series?
Ohhh I feel you! I've been there before when T hurt his back and I secretly wished it was me on the couch. Isn't that sad? That's how worn-out I am. I hope he feels better, and I hope YOU get a break.
ReplyDeleteThank you ;) He is much better, but is still wearing the boot for now. A break would be nice - but it turns out that I needed acknowledgement more than anything else. I guess I am more self-centered and immature than I realized (like a toddler!) - he is getting all the attention and "ohyoupoorthing" from family and friends while I'm grumpily doing the dishes and making snacks for everyone :) Luckily, my mom knows me too well, so she gave me oodles of praise and encouragement last weekend.
DeleteOh, and Legos frustrate me, I'd take books anyday.
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